Perhaps you were shocked earlier this week when South Carolina’s governor, Mark Sanford, held a press conference and admitted he was having an affair with a woman in Argentina. It all came out when he disappeared for a couple days, and his staff said he was hiking the Appalachian Trail. He wasn’t. As much as this seems to happen now-a-days, it still takes me by surprise when someone of prominence falls. It’s just an unpleasant reminder that any of us can fall, believer or not.
In middle of this, Governor Sanford’s wife Jenny was even more amazing to me. This Christian woman has known about the affair for a little while. She told her husband that he needed to move out a couple weeks ago. She didn’t however tell the media, as she strove to protect the couples sons. She says she’d like to see reconciliation happen. Enough of my commentary, Jenny Sanford said it best, and her statement is a shining example of someone of character who’s character shines through even in the middle of the storm.
Here’s what she had to say:
I would like to start by saying I love my husband and I believe I have put forth every effort possible to be the best wife I can be during our almost twenty years of marriage. As well, for the last fifteen years my husband has been fully engaged in public service to the citizens and taxpayers of this state and I have faithfully supported him in those efforts to the best of my ability. I have been and remain proud of his accomplishments and his service to this state.
I personally believe that the greatest legacy I will leave behind in this world is not the job I held on Wall Street, or the campaigns I managed for Mark, or the work I have done as First Lady or even the philanthropic activities in which I have been routinely engaged. Instead, the greatest legacy I will leave in this world is the character of the children I, or we, leave behind. It is for that reason that I deeply regret the recent actions of my husband Mark, and their potential damage to our children.
I believe wholeheartedly in the sanctity, dignity and importance of the institution of marriage. I believe that has been consistently reflected in my actions. When I found out about my husband’s infidelity I worked immediately to first seek reconciliation through forgiveness, and then to work diligently to repair our marriage. We reached a point where I felt it was important to look my sons in the eyes and maintain my dignity, self-respect, and my basic sense of right and wrong. I therefore asked my husband to leave two weeks ago.
This trial separation was agreed to with the goal of ultimately strengthening our marriage. During this short separation it was agreed that Mark would not contact us. I kept this separation quiet out of respect of his public office and reputation, and in hopes of keeping our children from just this type of public exposure. Because of this separation, I did not know where he was in the past week.
I believe enduring love is primarily a commitment and an act of will, and for a marriage to be successful, that commitment must be reciprocal. I believe Mark has earned a chance to resurrect our marriage.
Psalm 127 states that sons are a gift from the Lord and children a reward from Him. I will continue to pour my energy into raising our sons to be honorable young men. I remain willing to forgive Mark completely for his indiscretions and to welcome him back, in time, if he continues to work toward reconciliation with a true spirit of humility and repentance.
This is a very painful time for us and I would humbly request now that members of the media respect the privacy of my boys and me as we struggle together to continue on with our lives and as I seek the wisdom of Solomon, the strength and patience of Job and the grace of God in helping to heal my family.
musicians and athletes and forget to honor teachers, soldiers and emergency responders. Somewhere along the way, our priorities got out-of-whack.
